How to know if a man likes you vice/versa

Okay so today we will be talking about what every girl yearns to know about.....Does he like me?” is by far the most often asked question amongst girls in the dating world.

They discuss with their girlfriends, they read articles about what “ signs ” to look for, they analyze every interaction, every text, every facial expression, all in the hopes of finding that elusive answer.

The sad fact is, this is a huge waste of time and energy because deciphering whether or not a guy likes you is incredibly simple. In fact, I can sum up this article in once sentence: when a guy likes you, it’s obvious!

Every day, on Facebook , in the comments section, my whatsapp, in my inbox…day in and day out I hear variations of the same question: Does he like me? How does he feel about me? Is he committed to me?

And really, when you get to the heart of it, if you have to ask…you already have your answer. But let’s dig into this a little deeper…

Why is it so confusing?

Okay darlings , so if it’s so obvious, then why are so many women so confused in this area? I don’t blame you – I have been through the exact same thing many times.

You meet a guy and you feel chemistry yen yen yen😀😀 maybe he asks for your number, you send flirty messages, maybe you hang out a few times, but he doesn’t officially ask you on a date, and he gives you no indication of how he feels.

He seems into you okay that seem cool right, and you know that the chemistry you feel can’t possibly be one-sided, so what the heck is going on? Are you wasting your time on a dead end, or do you need to just wait it out a little longer before landing in relationship-ville?

Where most women get confused is in that gray zone, the area where he shows interest but nothing really comes of it, and you just don’t know how he feels. But here’s the thing: you do know for sure .

It’s obvious. He is somewhat into you, he has fun with you, but he doesn’t like you enough. Or maybe he does like you but just doesn’t think you would work out as a couple – and if that’s how he feels, then he probably isn’t the right guy for you!!!! Yes it's bitter but it's true..I know how hard it is not to take such things personally. I mean, if you like him and he doesn’t like you in the same way, then there must be something wrong with you, right? Wrong. Not everything is a match, not everyone is compatible, and sometimes the timing just isn’t right, and that is something that is totally beyond your control not everyone has to like you as much as you like them.

The wide imagination

Another reason a lot of us get so confused in this realm is because we cling to the vision of how we want things to be, rather than seeing what is. You want a relationship with him, so you cling to any sign that he wants the same thing. You focus exclusively on tiny pieces of the puzzle instead of putting it all together to see the larger picture..yes the larger picture When looked at individually, a puzzle piece can be completely ambiguous, so you create your own interpretation of what it means.

This obsessive line of thinking is what sam and I often refer to as playing “emotional detective.” Women will dig into their memories and observations and go through every detail, no matter how small and insignificant, to try to uncover a “hidden message” or “secret code” that the guy is sending. The reality is that by playing emotional detective, you usually only succeed in doing one thing: driving yourself absolutely nut!

The problem is that it can feel like obsessing and analyzing will have some sort of payoff, like there will be a reward for all this time and energy spent attempting to figure out what’s what…but there won’t be.

Guys Don’t Hide Interest,they don't!

Men, in general, are goal-oriented. They see something they want and they pursue it. It’s how they’re wired. It goes against a man’s nature to like a girl, see an opportunity to pursue her, and turn the other way.

Men don’t typically play games or do things to intentionally mislead or manipulate you. When a guy likes you, he is drawn to you. He wants to be around you, he finds reasons to talk to you, he becomes a presence in your life, and he gives you a special kind of attention that no one else is given. He lights up around you, he is excited to see you, he loves spending time with you, and he wants to get to know you more. Once he does, either a relationship will develop, or it won’t. (If it doesn’t, it’s probably because he realized you aren’t compatible simple.)

Olamide.. Thinks once a girl gives you the key to honeypot then she likes you well not all the time because she might just need a man to spend the nigH with just to get over her worries not be deceived it's a new age.

Okay back to you girls When a guy likes you, you just know. You see it in the way he looks at you, in the way he talks to you, in the way he factors you into his life. You see it in everything,he plans his Future and include you in it

Cynthia said...When i first started dating my husband, like very early on, I remember that if he took a little while to text me back he would always give me an explanation as to why, something like, “I’m sorry, I’m at a noisy bar and didn’t feel my phone vibrate.” I would never expect him to reply to my texts right away, and I would never expect or need an explanation. People get busy; sometimes I go hours without responding to texts. It happens. His explanations for his texting lag-time were his way of showing me I mattered, that I was important to him, that he would never read a text from me and not reply to him. It was a small thing that spoke volumes. And when a guy likes you, you will have countless examples like that. You don’t even have to ask, you just know.

You don’t worry about the relationship or stress over it and doing so would almost seem silly. Even if you’re just dating but you aren’t official, you don’t worry. You know how he feels. And the people around you know how he feels. His friends will see it, his family will see it, the waitress will see it. It will just be obvious.

If he likes you, and wants to be in a relationship with you, he will make sure you know it and he will pursue it. If he likes you but doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, then…who cares? Why are you even thinking about him? I have made the mistake of waiting around for some guy to get his act together, and those situations never end well. You have to live for yourself, you have to live according to your timetable, you can’t invest in what could be, and you need to see and appreciate the what is.

Dr Micheal Ajilo said ....when a lady likes you She will be very hurt when u do the unexpected yet will be easy for her to forgive you I personally think that true when you love/like someone you find it easy to forgive them.

Where To Put Your Focus

Putting your focus on getting a guy to like you, or figuring out if he likes you, doesn’t serve you in any positive way. Where you should put your focus is on really liking yourself or sorry loving yourself and on finding happiness in your own life. Trust me, I know it’s way easier said than done, but that’s what makes all the difference.

The fact is, you have to trust the timing of your life. Trust that things will unfold as they are meant to. We don’t have much control over anything in this life. You can’t control how a guy feels, or when, and if, certain things will happen to you and for you. All you can do is find a way to be at peace, to accept yourself as you are, and to love who you are.

There’s no point in figuring out if a guy likes you if he isn’t taking the steps to be with you. Fine, maybe it’s validating for like a minute, but if he can’t give you the relationship you want, then there is no point. Maybe someday it will work out, maybe it won’t. You can’t know such things, so don’t waste your energy trying to predict the future.

You can’t always explain why things happen and you definitely can’t make someone feel a certain way and want certain things. You just need to trust that it will all be OKAY and try not to panic in the middle of the sentence. Trust me, life has a way of really surprising you.

So in sum, stop asking if a guy likes you. Stop looking at the clues and the signs. If you have to wonder, you have your answer. When a guy likes you, it is obvious,You will just know he does,you won't even have to check this post,because you will be certain